Anger vs Success

Anger and success are often thought to be antagonists. Anger is driven either by fear or ego(which are interrelated), while success is the culmination of a task as expected by the performer.

Uncontrolled anger starts a vicious cycle:



While controlled anger starts a virtuous cycle of deliberate practice :

                



In an ideal world, one would like to eliminate anger from the equation entirely. But that would also require eliminating the affinity to success. What is more valuable from my perspective is to take a slight pause : 

  • I fail an exam and get furious. I start blaming the system and how the entire world is against me. Venting provides instant relief, and I get addicted to it, becoming a classical whiner - Case I.
  • I fail and get furious. I take a pause and reflect. I change the strategies or perhaps the goals and let anger fuel the action - Case II.
I personally have been stuck on the extreme ends of the spectrum for a significant part of my life: occasionally struggling with uncontrolled rage while being completely indifferent to life at other times.

Both did not work. 

Anger is probably the biggest driver of my life. I can't use the stop button. I can use the pause button.

Thank you.

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